Comments on: Why won’t eHarmony reject me?

By: Eli

Eli — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 23:49:24 +0000

I just got rejected and I think it it because they have that question about honesty and NO I am not honest 100% of the time. What woman could be if she is dating a straight man? Come on. That just isn’t reasonable.

“Babe does this look alright?”
I’m thinking you look like Helen Keller dressed you, but I say, “Babe you look great!” Why? Because dude has feelings and he gave it a try. That is what is important to me.

eHarmony is looking for people who either believe in shared imaginary friends or who are overly optimistic about every aspect of their lives and future. Good for them, but count me in the “have some goddamn humility, a lot of people in the world are douche bags, everything isn’t perfect” group. Being pragmatic about life doesn’t mean your psychologically unstable. It just means you know the world is a dynamic, ever changing place with good and bad people. You don’t try to make the world better by holding hands and singing.

In some ways, I am glad I got rejected. I won’t have to deal with the “life is all rosy all the time crowd” and find a pragmatic person who has a full range of emotions and doesn’t think marriage will be like hitting the lottery. How about some reality in life for a change? Maybe that is why so many of you get divorced. eHarmony may have a high rate of coupling, but what is the rate of divorce amongst those who have gotten married? I would love to know that stat.

Good with the bad people! That is the spice of life!

By: Mitchell

Mitchell — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 06:44:32 +0000

Reading the comments I see a major trend here, the closed-minded people that think everyone who can not be easily labelled are the ones that are praising eHarmony for their criteria. However, they were most likely approved under the pretense that they are probally, caring, passionate, and understanding. Fail. Entirely. Anyone can lie, if someone was a real "weirdo" they would. Then they would meet you under the pretense of a different personality. How is that an ideal match? It seems as though they already let a lot of people do that. Men and women lie at bars and social events to get with the opposite gender, why is this any different?

By: richard ludwig

richard ludwig — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:56:52 +0000

eharmony was not able to match me up because i have a personality too complex for their fscked up methods, in addition to my being a disabled geek.

By: Toaster

Toaster — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:58:57 +0000

Check out Pointless Planet's take on eHarmony: http://www.pointlessplanet.com/2009/10/eharmony-b...

By: Theresa

Theresa — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 11:31:58 +0000

I was also rejected by eHarmony but I believe that they told me the reason: I don't fit into any of the Profiles they have built, so they can't predict who might be a good match.

eHarmony states that the profiles were developed using research on married couples. So though marriage between their patrons is not necessarily the goal of the exercise, it is the foundation for the matching system.

I also read in my Personality Profile that I am lucky, lucky, lucky! I'm so balanced people envy me. Sometimes I'm outgoing, sometimes I'm reserved. Maybe I'm steady but I'm also responsive. I'm focused but flexible, curious and content. I take care of other people but also myself.

All these "sometimes this, sometimes that" answers are, I'm sure, the reason why I was told that eHarmony could not help me. Not because of any specific answer, but because my *pattern* of answers can't be easily pigeonholed.

So all you rejects, hold your heads high and be proud of your individuality!

Say, is there a web site for eHarmony rejects? After all, we DO have something in common!

By: h-dog

h-dog — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 12:43:25 +0000

so now gays can join as well. I had a rather $hitty childhood, but have done a lot of personal work. I am trying a free trial on chemistry.com but it seems to be a bunch of neurotic psychopaths (okay so its a little exaggerated but seriously one dude said he is always depressed and sleeps as day). so yay for compatible partners! lets hope it works out for the best.

By: Ted

Ted — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:41:41 +0000

That came out a bit wrong… I am not saying that you are weird if you got rejected, just that their system kept at least one weirdo out.

By: Ted

Ted — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:40:02 +0000

A work mate of mine was rejected, I wasn't. Everyone at my work thinks he is weird and he is never invited out. I'm far from perfect, but I am not weird like him, so I think their system works fairly well, at least in this case.

It has nothing to do with religion or race either.

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:00:43 +0000

I was rejected forever ago when I took it when I was bored, I don't remember any of the details. I don't think it's a problem though, they're offering a service and they can deny it if they want, there's plenty of other sites anyways.

Though I find some of these comments pretty funny. I'd think people who need to pay money to meet people would be less judgmental.

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 06 May 2009 17:24:32 +0000

Wow… some seriously nasty comments here. If you really think eHarmony's rejection process saves you from dating potential psychos I've got a bridge to sell you.